10 Reasons Passionate Love Can Be the Strongest Love of All

By BELLA POPE

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Have you ever felt the kind of love that leaves you feeling dizzy, exhilarated, and wild? Here’s everything you need to know about crazy, passionate love.

Passion is an extremely strong emotion. You can feel it in your very bones, and it’s not easy to get rid of once it’s there. It can even be addicting at times, which is why people say that love can be just like a drug.

Everyone should, at some point in their lifetime, experience this kind of love in one form or another. Unfortunately, not everyone gets to experience it, and this is truly sad, as this kind of passionate love is extremely powerful.

What is passionate love?

Passionate love is different from your average romantic love because passion is a ridiculously strong emotion. In fact, passion is defined as a “strong and barely controllable emotion.”

For this reason, I’m sure you can imagine just how powerful and even dangerous this kind of love can be. However, it’s often short-lived and dwindles down with time until the love either fizzles out completely or it slows down into a long-burning love.

Why passionate love can be the strongest love of all

With passion being one of the strongest emotions a person can feel, and love being right up there with it, putting these two feelings together can make for one hell of an unbreakable pairing. Here’s why passionate love can be the strongest love you’ll ever experience.

#1 It inhibits your logical thinking. It’s actually been scientifically proven that when you fall in love with someone, your frontal lobe basically shuts down. This part of the brain is responsible for your logical thinking and decision-making skills, so quite literally, you don’t even know what you’re thinking or deciding when you’re overcome with passionate love. [Read: What are you feeling? Is it love or lust?]

#2 It’s short… so you make the most of it. Passionate love in particular is so strong because most relationships built on a ton of passion are the ones that both parties know won’t last forever. As a result, you both do whatever you can to make the most of it.

This allows both of you to really open up to each other in ways that you normally wouldn’t so early on in a relationship. It’s powerful in the way that makes the two of you put everything aside in order to focus on each other, even if for only a fleeting moment in the grand scheme of things. [Read: 8 subtle signs your fling is turning into a relationship]

#3 You almost turn into a different person. Due to the logical thinking portion of your brain taking a vacation when you fall in passionate love, you often behave like someone else completely. You begin saying and doing things that you normally wouldn’t do in a million years.

#4 You don’t make the best decisions. You can probably see how the above reason could lead to your making some not-so-great decisions when you’re struck with passionate love. Since your brain has basically turned into mush when you have so much passion running through your veins, your decision-making skills aren’t exactly up to par.

This means that you could make some terrible decisions *like getting married after only a couple of weeks* that you would normally avoid if you were thinking clearly. [Read: 10 ridiculous myths people believe about marriage]

#5 You risk a lot more when you’re in passionate love. The dangers of passionate love really come to light when you start taking more risks with your new significant other. And this doesn’t just include marrying someone you barely know.

You could also forgo protection during sex and could end up having a child with someone, only to realize that the two of you could never work out. Unfortunately, this realization comes only after the passion has subsided. [Read: Newsflash: Women hate condoms just as much as men do]

#6 You’re more vulnerable. Another danger of passionate love is how vulnerable you can become. Passion can make you unlock all the barriers to your deepest, darkest secrets. This could leave you completely vulnerable to this new person.

In the same respect, this could also lead to other complications and even heartbreak if the other person doesn’t have the best intentions. And we all know that some people will use passion to their advantage in order to get what they really want.

#7 You can mistake fleeting, passionate love for the real thing. Passion is so strong that it can actually trick you into thinking that you’re truly in love with someone when, in reality, it’s just passion heightening those feelings. The truth is that sometimes, the most passionate love you can have isn’t really love at all.

This can be terrible because you can make decisions with your significant other, thinking that they’re the one you’re going to be with forever *like getting married*, only to find out that it wasn’t true love at all. It was just passion masking your true feelings. [Read: Do you believe in love or have you given up on it?]

#8 You can ruin a great thing if you go too hard too soon. It’s no secret that passion drives relationship. It’s the force behind the first move, the first kiss, and getting in the sheets for the first time. And with passionate love, all of these can happen REALLY quickly, sometimes all within the first night.

But moving too fast can ruin a relationship that could otherwise be fantastic. If there’s too much passion behind your actions, you could end up ruining the relationship before it truly has time to develop into something beautiful. [Read: Falling in love fast and why you need to slow down]

#9 It can completely change your perception of love. Some people have a hard time finding love. Because of this, they even go so far as to say that love doesn’t exist at all. But those people have probably never felt the full effects of passionate love.

After someone falls so passionately in love, they will have a completely different perception of what love truly is. They will start believing in love 100%, because passion has that much power. Passion can make you understand love on a whole different level—one that you may not have even known existed.

#10 Passionate love can drive the longest relationships *with the right person*.The best and most powerful thing about passion is that if you’re with the right person, it can fuel a relationship to last longer than you’d ever imagined. Passion isn’t always a fleeting emotion in a relationship.

If you’re with the right person and the passion transitions from a flaming fire to a slow, burning love, it can last longer than a lifetime. It can last an eternity. [Read: 10 signs you’re compatible with the one you’re dating]

Passionate love isn’t always the best thing for your relationship. But while it has its dangers, it can also transform into something truly beautiful. Heed our warnings and tread lightly, but don’t be afraid to embrace your passion if the right one comes along.

What Is True Love? And 11 Signs That You Have Found It

What is true love all about? Everyone wants to know what true love is, and many people think they can feel it when it happens, but do they? Are they experiencing true love or are the experience infatuation, lust, or even wishful thinking? Moreover, is true love something that is actually possible, or is it all in our heads?

What Is Love?

In order to understand true love, we need to understand love. Love is defined as an intense feeling of affection for someone, which means that you view someone as awesome and desirable based on your beliefs, judgments, and experiences. Once you decide that someone is attractive to you mentally and physically, love also becomes a biological process. Your body takes over and reinforces what your mind already knows – that this person makes you feel amazing!

The physical reactions of love are a neurological condition where we feel bonded to something or someone else. When we feel attached to someone else, our brain releases chemicals such as serotonin, oxytocin, vasopressin, dopamine, and norepinephrine. All of these chemicals cause us to think loving thoughts and feel the physical sensations that we associate with love. These hormones include:

– Serotonin: This hormone increases your mood; in fact, if you take drugs such as Ecstasy, you cause a huge rise in serotonin levels. You might as well just find someone to love instead – it’s healthier.

– Oxytocin: This has been referred to as the biological basis for love. This hormone is released during cuddling and sex and it helps to give you the feeling of attachment to someone else.

– Vasopressin: Along with oxytocin, experts believe that this hormone is responsible for feeling attached to someone.

– Dopamine: This hormone is responsible for desire and reward, which means you feel an immense amount of pleasure when you are rewarded with loving actions, such as kindness, touch, date night, or whatever makes you feel fulfilled and happy.

– Norepinephrine: This is released when you are falling in love and feel stress for things to work out and go well. It gives you the physical sensations you feel while falling in love, such as sweaty palms or a racing heart.

In other words, among many other things, hormones regulate our behavior in mating and falling in love. Does the fact that feelings of love are a hormonal process make love not as impactful as we think? No! The feeling of love is a powerful emotion that benefits us in a big way. It helps us maintain relationships, do good things for others, do good for things for ourselves, protect others, and feel a sense of belonging and safety in life. Without the emotion of love, we would feel lonely, scared, selfish, and abandoned.

What Is True Love?

Let’s leave the biology behind and say that true love is the state you are in when you feel connected, attached, and happy with someone. It is a place where you feel a permanent sense of connection with someone else, regardless of what happens.

In addition, the definition of true love goes far beyond what your body does and feels, or how you view someone in a relationship. True love can also be defined as you how you act in a relationship with someone.

True love is about meeting each other’s expectations and loving each other with trust, acceptance, and support. True love is about treating someone with the kind of respect that they deserve because you view them in a loving manner.

11 Signs That You Have Found True Love

True love is about the way you perceive someone. If you can step outside of your ego and see the value in someone else and the value in forming relationships with some give-and-take, then you can develop the mental attitude towards someone that results in a loving bond that can’t be broken. If you are not sure if you are experiencing true love or not, then following are 11 signs of true love to watch for.

1. Nothing Is Hidden

People who are experiencing true love don’t hide stuff from each other. They openly share their lives because they want to share their lives with that person. That is a part of being in a loving long-term relationship with someone. You don’t want to hide anything from them because you want them to share in your life – the good and the bad – and understand what you experience.

2. You Don’t Play Games

People who are living in a state of lust, a false sense of admiration for someone, or a total sense of selfishness, will play games. When you are thinking more about yourself and your needs and pleasure than someone else, you are not in a state of true love and you will do ridiculous things with a lack of seriousness and respect for the other person.

For instance, if someone feels like they want to keep someone in their lives, solely for the purpose of fulfilling a need they have, then they are going to play games in order to do that. Someone pretending to be pregnant or suicidal in order to keep someone are just two examples of games that are not a part of true love.

3. There Is Complete Respect

If you have found true love, then you will give and receive respect. You will respect them for who they are and what they do in the world, including with you. You will see the good in them. You will treat them as a human being and view them as your equal, not your superior or someone who is lower than you. And, they will treat you with the same level of respect.

4. You Care About Each Other’s Welfare

When you have found true love, you care about each other’s happiness and health. This means that you don’t try to hurt their happiness or health in any way.

For instance, you don’t abuse them, physically or mentally. You don’t put them down, stress them out, or make them feel bad about what they do. Instead, you support them and make them feel good about themselves and what they do. You encourage them to do things that make them feel happy and healthy. And you do things for their happiness and health without them always having to ask you to.

5. You Don’t Focus On Their Flaws

This is not what a lot of people believe it to be. I hear many people (many in my direct life) who say that their abusive relationship is what true love is all about because they are willing to look past their partner’s faults and accept them for who they are. They are willing to take the physical and mental abuse, but it shows their partner just how much they care. That’s not true love, that’s being a victim. Accepting someone’s flaws means accepting that they are not perfect. It doesn’t mean accepting that they treat you poorly.

A flaw is something that they have not perfected yet, such as a weakness in putting their laundry away or a lack of commitment to things that could really benefit their lives. It is not something that they do to you to make you feel bad or hurt you.

6. You Are Kind

When you feel true love with someone, you are considerate, generous, and friendly with them. You don’t try to hurt them; in fact, you don’t ever want to hurt them. You are concerned about them and show concern. You think about their needs. You are affectionate and patient towards them. You don’t speak harshly or use mean words towards them.

I find many people are kinder to strangers than to their loved ones. How you treat others compared to your partner is something to think about when you are considering whether you are feeling true love or just in a relationship with someone who you take out your frustrations on.

7. You Are Dedicated To Improving The Relationship

What is true love? It is a dedication to someone and your relationship with them. It is the willingness to do things and compromise for the betterment of the relationship. It is the willingness to put the relationship above other things and remain committed to making it happier, healthier, and more fulfilling. You do this because you recognize that the relationship is already making you a happier and better person, so staying dedicated to improving it is just a no-brainier.

This doesn’t mean that there won’t be issues in the relationship. Humans have emotions, and those emotions can interfere with a relationship’s happiness. But true love is the willingness to work through arguments. You don’t think about breaking up or moving on. Your desire is focused on making things better and working through the anger, hurt, or annoyance that is happening so you can get back to a happy relationship.

8. You Keep Your Promises

A promise to someone you truly love has a lot of weight. Promises are an extension of trust. When someone you love promises to do something and breaks it, then they are breaking your trust on some level. This is why someone who truly loves you will inform you of the times they can’t make their promises instead of just leaving you hanging in the dust, and vice-versa.

9. You See Things From Their Perspective

When the relationship is about you, then your perspective is all that you see. But, when you are in a relationship with someone you truly love, you value that person enough to see things from their perspective.

For instance, you can see their true intentions, instead of labeling what you think their intentions are. You can also see where they are coming from and why they need or want what they do in their life, instead of judging them for needing or wanting something different than you.

10. When They Are Happy, You Feel Good

When they smile, you feel happy. When they are experiencing joy, you feel joy too. When they are feeling loved, appreciated, or on top of their game, you feel good. Even if you are unhappy with yourself, you feel a sense of appreciation that they are feeling good. That’s what true love is really all about. You value them so much that you want them to be happy in life and free from suffering.

Moreover, you don’t feel envious when they are experiencing greatness in their life. For instance, you don’t get upset that they are making more money than you or having more luck than you. Their value doesn’t decrease or increase depending on how much success they are having – or how much success or failure you are experiencing.

11. You Are Willing To Stay During The Tough Times

Your partner gets sick, physically or mentally. They are struggling with a life crisis that has pushed them into a different state of being. They are struggling with finding themselves. All of these times can be tough, but if you are experiencing true love with someone, you will stay, support, and find ways to help them through their tough times.

This doesn’t mean that you take abuse from them. You may truly love them, but if they move into a place where they are not truly loving you, then you shouldn’t put up with that. However, if they are trying their best and treating you with the respect that you need, then you should be willing to stay with them through their through their tough time, even when everyone else turns their back to them.

Don’t Feel Like It’s True Love?

If you went through the signs above and don’t feel like you are experiencing true love, should you get out of the relationship? Not necessarily.

True love doesn’t always just happen. Because it is a mental state, where you recognize the value in someone and enjoy what they bring to your life, it takes awareness on your part. It takes stepping outside of the ego and moving into a state of compassion where you value other people and connections in a different way.

If the person you are with treats you well, and you love them, then don’t ditch them just because you are having problems or not experiencing a connection that blows your mind. True love is something to aspire to, not to automatically have. Work on building your relationship. Work on developing more trust, communication, respect, and compromise. And work towards a truly loving relationship with them.

soulmate or past life relationship?

Ever been in a very intense relationship where you feel you have known that person your whole life? You feel that you know what the person is thinking and feeling, as if there is an emotional cord between you? You could be in a past-life relationship.

When you meet someone that you had a past-life relationship with it often feels as if that person is your soulmate. It feels that you know them , you recognise them, you understand each other and you have a bond even when you’re separate from each other. The fundamental difference between a past-life relationship and a soulmate relationship is that soulmate relationships tend to work. When you meet soulmate, you get on although you may have a few struggles, fundamentally you click and it works. Its a functioning relationship and you have each others best interests at heart.

If its a past-life relationship, often that relationship is hell , you’re getting ecstasy and agony,  you’re getting powerful intensity and a psychic connection. But at the end of the day its often plagued with problems and its seems as though you’re repeating the same relationship over and over again while your weary  soul hopes it will be different. These relationships mimic addiction and not unconditional love. No matter how long you have been apart, one call and you’re hooked.

So why do they happen? Your soul lesson is to heal this and to learn to let go so that you can find a deeper love which nurtures your growth. People find it very difficult to let go of these intoxicating experiences because they feel that they are more real than any other relationship. The irony is that your soul is reliving this so that you can GROW and do things differently. Your soul is trying to heal and show you new strength.

Many past-life relationships are not meant for this life and block us and our happiness. You can have great sex, intense emotional experiences, and big dramas, but it will only ever be a perpetual cycle of disappointment. Its like banging your head against a brick wall and the temptation to do it is like a line of heroin – you’ve got to have it!

When you’re in a past life love relationship it’s very difficult for you to think that its not for you, because it feels as if your life is over if it doesn’t work.  The key to surviving these and letting go is your own relationship with you. You need to love you as much as you expect to be loved. If you are not treating yourself  as precious and looking after yourself, how can the Universe mirror love back? Ultimately it’s about trust in your path and believing that you are worthy of a relationship that is worthy of you! The time has come to heal your soul and know that you deserve to and can have a relationship that nurtures you, a relationship that is equal.  You are a beautiful soul and have the right to a relationship that doesn’t destroy your heart and take away with your self-esteem.

When we do let go of these destructive relationships we make way for a new cycle of miracles and magic. The act of letting go and taking a leap of faith can shift eons of karma, moving us forward into a wonderful new phase that is often beyond our expectations.

THE SEVEN DOORWAYS TO LOVE: HOW TO IGNITE THE ENERGY OF LOVE INSIDE

Contrary to what greeting cards tell us, love isn’t just flowers, hearts, and a warm, fuzzy feeling; it’s actually a field of energy that we can tap into on many different levels—physical, emotional, and spiritual. This love energy is what makes life truly joyful and juicy.

So how do we tap into that energy and amp up our lives? By connecting to the body’s built-in energy system. According to many different wisdom traditions, we have seven main energy centers in our body. If you’ve attended a yoga class, you’ve probably heard them called by their Sanskrit name: the chakras.

These energy centers are located in a vertical column from the base of the spine to the top of the head and are considered the junction points between the body and consciousness. Renowned researcher Dr. Candace Pert has discovered distinct biochemical activity occurring at the sites of the centers.

While volumes have been written about these energy centers and their effects on health and well-being, I’ve seen little about how they affect our ability to experience unconditional love. As part of my research for my latest book, Love for No Reason, I interviewed over 150 unconditionally loving people—I call them the Love Luminaries—and noticed something fascinating: all of the characteristics Love Luminaries share – the qualities of Love for No Reason – match the specific qualities traditionally attributed to each of the energy centers. For example, unconditionally loving people all seem to believe that they live in a “friendly universe,” which gives them a deep sense of safety in the world. This quality of safety is associated with the first energy center, located at the base of the spine.

Wow! I thought, If you strengthen the energy centers, you strengthen the qualities that help you open to love. When you think of each energy center as a doorway to love—you could say that the energy of love flows into our lives through the following seven doorways:

1. The Doorway to Safety: Being in the Here and Now. This doorway is connected to the energy center located at the base of the spine, and is related to feeling safe, secure, and grounded.

2. The Doorway to Vitality: Turning Up the Juice. This doorway is connected to the energy center located in the area of the sacrum or lower abdomen and is related to feeling vital and alive – both physically and emotionally.

3. The Doorway of Unconditional Self-Love – Loving Yourself No Matter What. This doorway is connected to the energy center located in the area of the naval or solar plexus and is related to feeling empowered and worthy of love.

4. The Doorway of Openness: Living with an Open Heart. This doorway is connected to the energy center located in the heart and is related to being open to fully giving and receiving love.

5. The Doorway of Communication: Coming from Compassion. This doorway is connected to the energy center located in the area of the throat and is related to being able to listen and express ourselves from a place of love.

6. The Doorway of Vision: Seeing with the Eyes of Love. This doorway is connected to the energy center located in the middle of the forehead, also called the third eye, and is related to intuition and the ability to see inner and outer truth and beauty.

7. The Doorway to Oneness: Connecting to Wholeness. This doorway is connected to the energy center located at the top of the head, and relates to feeling connected to a larger whole: God, Spirit, Higher Self, Nature, the Divine or the Universe.

Everything you need to feel greater unconditional love is available to you through these doorways. If you want to be able to give and receive love more fully, focus on developing the qualities that correlate to these centers. When we feel greater safety, vitality, empowerment, openness, expression, vision, and oneness, then we can truly experience Love for No Reason.
The energy of love is the most powerful force on the planet. When you tap into that energy, in any amount, it begins to transform your life—until you become an unshakable source of love for yourself and everyone around you. And that’s a truly warm, fuzzy experience!

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About Marci Shimoff: Based on the NY Times bestseller Love for No Reason: 7 Steps to Creating a Life of Unconditional Love (Free Press, 2010) which offers a breakthrough approach to experiencing a lasting state of unconditional love—the key to lasting joy and fulfillment in life. Marci is also author of the NY Times bestseller Happy for No Reason and co-author of the Chicken Soup for the Woman’s Soul series. To order Love for No Reason and get the bonus gift package free, go to www.TheLoveBook.com and follow Marci on Facebook @ MarciShimoffFan.
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Cord Free Aura

The picture to the right shows a healthy relationship between two people,where they share energy that is beautiful and loving but they do not have cords running from each other. They are open and receptive to each other,but they are not draining each others energy centres. This might be defined in certain circles as a relationship where the two are individuals who are emotionally independent but choose to be with each other through love. in fact if you look closely at this auric image, you can see that their third eyes are pointing at each other and so therefore one can assume that the artist was attempting to portray romantic love on an auric level. 

Cord Cutting

About:

Whether we work with “energy” or not the fact remains that there is always energetic transfer when we are interacting with our environment, and not all energy interaction leaves us feeling comfortable. If we have “loose boundary protection” we may in fact be quite vulnerable to the energy of those around us. For the skeptic – think of it this way.. you are in a great mood you go to the shops, and at the check out you are next to someone who seems to be completely down and miserable, and even snappy in their manner. By the time you leave the shop, you feel inexplicably in a bad mood that “came from nowhere”. By my definition – you just actively participated in an energy exchange whether you gave permission or not. On the other hand, we might be drained from others who are acquaintances, colleagues or friends and adult family members who place their expectations up on us. The information provided below is purely my understanding and a couple of techniques for you to draw on and expand on and develop to suit your own needs and comfort levels.  
**This exercise is very empowering - and one that you can do yourself however and how often you like. At the same time I also offer this as a service, because the first time we try something - we often like to have someone "with us" that can confirm what is going on. The other reason is because sometimes in life when we have too much happening and we are too emotionally involved in a situation - it helps to be able " handball' the process to someone else. 

How Cords Can be created:

The photo at the top of the page shows "cords" going from one heart chakra to another and is deeply embedded. Given that the photo shows that the cord is anchored in both hearts, it would appear to be consenting, however, there becomes a huge energy transfer and it is difficult to seperate one persons view point or feelings from the other (and probably for themseleves as well). In fact I won't speculate on what the cord means - when we do the cord cutting exercises ourselves then we tend to find the cause and meaning behind it in the process. Some cords are appropriate - some aren't. We have to follow our individual guidance in relation to this. 


The photo to the left shows on an energetic level the "binding" practise that some wiccans or other pagan groups might use. Usually when they do this they will  "bind two hands together" to reinforce the intent that they will not seperate and walk different paths. It is my belief and guidance that binding is an inappropriate cord and suggests energetically a desire to control another (if there hasn't been consent given), or the fostering of dependency (which goes against my own inner moral compass), or may even indicate or suggest when consent is given - an attachment or personality disorder, however, it  is also part of a marriage like celebration/ritual for many pagan or earth-based groups, in which case it is not an inappropriate binding because the individuals still have free will to unbind or leave the relationship should they feel guided to at a later date - in this way it represents and cements a commitment to each other. I also understand that usually these "binding ceremonies" are not for the long term - they may bind for 2 years, or five years or seven years, and at the same time, they may even decide to bind again once this time frame expires. In a way it is a form of marrying for a set number of years, and then they renew their "vows" again for a set number of years to allow individuals free will to develop in their own ways and acknowledging and respecting that we don't all grow in the same direction or walk the same path throughout the entirety of our lives. 

Other "cords of attachment" can occur when working with people or spirits that have their own issues of dependence and independence. They don't know how to draw the universal or divine energy themselves so they (most of the time without realising), put cords into chakras of ourselves, because our energy "feels good to them". Bear in mind - this kind of behaviour can only occur if /when our own boundaries are compromised, and if we make self care a priority  for ourselves including monitoring our own auric fields and chakra balancing -then we will experience this less and less. 

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Technique 1

Start by creating  your quiet space – focus on the breath, in and out, breathing in for the count of three, holding for three, and exhaling to the count of three. Repeat this exercise a few times and then as  you relax visualise yourself or your aura in your minds eye, much as if you were a bird in the sky looking down upon yourself, and flying around your auric body. Call upon your guides and your higher self to assist you during the process of cutting any cords of negative attachment, and give thanks. You are foucssing your intent for highest good and greatest joy. As you scan your aura you should be  able to see cords coming and going from it. Over time you will learn to identify what the places of attachment mean. The cords my be into hands or knees, or chakras, or into they may be projecting at you from the front or the back. The other really important and crucial insight here as well - is scan to see if YOU are projecting cords into others. You will definitely be able to tell the difference in the feel and energy of it. When you see the cords, you will want to cut them. Someitmes we need to do this exercise again and again, and sometimes we might need to put the scissors down and see ourselves with an axe or a chainsaw. I know of one person who tried this exercise and told that they ended up puling out an oxy welder and firing at the cords to disintegrate them (this was an unhealthy cord to a past romantic relationship that she consciously wanted to move on from, but "kept lapsing backwards).  process. Tell them that you want to be assisted with whatever you need for your “highest good”. Now scan your aura, assess it for cords coming to or from it. As a point of interest and for later reflection take note of where the cords are entering and leaving your aura, and the thickness of the cords. If possible you can follow these cords and see who/where the cords are going. Advise your guides that if it is appropriate and for your highest good that  you would like to see these cords cut and severed.

Many people are deterred from doing this exercise as they come from the perception that to cut cords to their romantic partners, or their adult children that it equates to “breaking the love connection”. This is not the case. We will still be able to have and to hold love for them, and the love we have will be a healthier form of love without the draining that can occur. It will also assist us in giving unconditional love to them, where we seek to neither control or be controlled by them. I personally do not recommend cutting cords to our small children as we need those cords on a physical aspect (in my opinion of course). DO NOT cut the cords that go from the centre of your crown into the universe (this is your “divine heavenly connection”, and DO NOT cut the cords from your feet to the core of the earth (this is your connection to source/Mother earth energy). Either way -if you are following your own guidance and you are invoking the “powers that BE “ to assist in the process – you don't need to fear cutting cords that it would be unwise to cut. Your statement of intent at the beginning of the exercise is for “inappropriate cords of attachment to be cut.

The cords actually offer information and insight in where we can direct healing energy for ourselves. For example, if we see great cords coming from our solar plexus to another individual – we are often being a victim or have handed our sense of personal power over to another. By cutting the cords we are taking the first steps in reclaiming that sense of empowerment. Cords from the hands only – can indicate that we are holding onto the past, and need to release it and let it go and move on.

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Cutting Cords with Archangel Michael

Given that time can be a premium for many of us, and we like to do things the “quick way”. My preference in regard to cord cutting is to utilise the services of Archangel Michael. When I call or invoke Archangel Michael I will use an invocation such as the following:

“I now call upon Father Creator, Mother Creator, Angels and Guides and specifically Archangel Michael to remove negativity from my aura at a cellular and molecular level from my aura. I also invoke the cutting of any cords  of attachment that are not for my highest good. I now give thanks to the Powers that Be, for I know that as ask – it is done.”


I will then stand or sit in that quiet space without straining and just allow myself to receive the healing energy, by focussing on my breath. If your clairvoyance is highly developed- you may " see" a being of light using the "blue sword" around you to purify your aura. 

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Cord Free Aura

The picture to the right shows a healthy relationship between two people,where they share energy that is beautiful and loving but they do not have cords running from each other. They are open and receptive to each other,but they are not draining each others energy centres. This might be defined in certain circles as a relationship where the two are individuals who are emotionally independent but choose to be with each other through love. in fact if you look closely at this auric image, you can see that their third eyes are pointing at each other and so therefore one can assume that the artist was attempting to portray romantic love on an auric level

When your soulmate is Married to someone else

The #1 reason why people fall out of love

The #1 reason why people fall out of love is because they're human. Yes. We are designed to fall out of love. And then, if the relationship is healthy and both people understand what real love is about, we fall back in love, deeper than before. And then we fall out of love and back in love. You get the picture. Falling in and out love is as cyclical as the tides of the ocean.

The problem generally arises when, at the first sign of falling out of love, someone jumps ship.

"I just wasn't in love anymore," we hear as a common reason why one person left a relationship. We take this to mean that the heart-pounding, exhilarating feelings that characterize the first stage of a relationship have faded. The eternal beloved who, just days or weeks before, made life worth living, is now a regular, flawed, sometimes annoying human being.

While the first round of falling in love may be characterized by strong feelings of love, a desire to spend a lot of time together, butterflies, and even a feeling of ecstatic bliss, the subsequent rounds are usually much less exciting.

If we knew to expect the eventual fall from grace that occurs with every couple in a committed relationship, we wouldn't feel so shocked when it happens. But because we're inundated with the Hollywood ideal of "happily ever after," we subconsciously believe, even if we rationally know better, that the in-love feelings should last forever.

The good news is that, once you fall out of love, you can begin the satisfying work of learning how to sustain real love which, in a healthy marriage or long-term partnership, grows over time. Some people seem to possess the art and skill of love effortlessly.

Perhaps real love was modeled in their family of origin, or perhaps they're just lucky enough to know naturally how to enact the love laws and loving actions that will sustain love throughout a lifetime. But for the rest of us, a little help in this department goes a long way.

Here are some basic love laws that will help you reignite your feelings of love and attraction for your partner:

1. Know that love is what you give.

We carry a strong cultural misconception that love is something that happens to you. In other words, it's your partner's job to "make" you feel alive, loved, and happy. While we do need a loving partner in order to share love, you and only you are responsible for your feelings of aliveness and joy.

And here's the great and empowering secret that our cultural mythology keeps hidden: The best way to feel love is to give it. I'm not talking about a codependent love where your good feelings are dependent on making someone else happy.

I'm talking about a real and true love that arises from a genuine desire to bring joy to your partner and offer support in the ways that feel loving to him or her. When you can reverse the conditioned mindset that love is something you get to the idea that love is something you give, miracles happen.

2. Cultivate gratitude.

At any moment, we can focus on what we don't love about our partners and what's missing in the relationship OR what we love and appreciate. When you proactively move toward gratitude and engage in loving actions like writing and sending gratitude lists or letters to your partner, you carve out the pathways to your heart that will infuse you with loving feelings.

3. Name your walls.

Because we've all been hurt by love (rejected, shamed, judged, abandoned), we know the risk we take when we open ourselves to loving again. Sometimes these hurts have occurred in past relationships with parents, siblings, or exes, and sometimes you've been hurt by your current partner.

Either way, it takes enormous courage to open your heart once you've been hurt. Yet it's the only way of sustaining real love. Once you can start to identify the ways that you shut down and protect, thereby barricading your heart behind a ironclad wall, the faster you'll be able to soften that wall and move toward your partner once again.

When you know the love laws and commit to putting the loving actions that open your heart into practice, you can sustain a lifetime of a loving, honest, satisfying relationship. It's not always easy or fast work, but it's work that is well-worth the effort. For, in the end, all we really want is to feel love and be loved.

There is great power in realizing that we don't have to wait for anyone else to change in order to feel love but that this longing can be met by own actions.